The other day, Abby was yelling in the back seat with such force that even her magical musical mirror would not console her. I began to sing whatever I could think of– trying to stick to kid songs like “The Wheels on the Bus” and “Oh, Be Careful Little Eyes What You See,” but occasionally resorting to some of my favorite Hairspray tunes just to keep the medley going. Relatively quickly, Abby settled down to listen, and eventually fell asleep.
Eying her (carefully) in my rear view mirror, I was touched at first. Aww… I thought. She is comforted by the sound of her mother’s voice. But then I realized- she thinks that my singing is beautiful music. I am the standard, Josh Groban is aberrant. Oh, dear.
So this got me thinking about the rest of Abby’s little limited world. She is happiest and the most at ease in our house, with Stephen and I. As she grows up, she’ll think that our jokes are funny, and learn to tell ones just like them. She’ll think that all mothers drink Dr. Pepper, that all fathers have smooth heads and hairy faces, and that everyone eats peas from a steamable package every night.
Okay, so maybe those are silly examples, but I’m still humbled by what a big responsibility a little person is. We are setting her “normal” in the way we treat each other, what we eat, how we entertain ourselves on the weekends, what we treat as valuable, and how we incorporate faith into our daily life….just to name a few things!
I’m not satisfied with how I live in most of those areas, and it certainly makes me think twice about my own choices as I imagine that before I know it, Abby will be imitating my every move. I’m tempted to put myself on strict improvement plans spiritually, nutritionally, physically, and mentally. Except, I don’t want for Abby to become neurotic and obsessed with self-improvement…I hope that she can be content and confident in exactly who she is. (Phew! Dr. Pepper stays, for now).
So what to do? I guess it’s the same thing that all of you wise ones out there are already doing, whether or not you have a baby in your house: do the best you can, humbly depend on God for wisdom, and give thanks for grace that covers a multitude of imperfections!