It’s been four years since we were abruptly initiated into little club of parents who have a child in Heaven. Maybe you’re here because you are new to the club, and you’re overwhelmed with emotions and questions.
Or maybe you have a friend who’s recently suffered loss, and you’re trying to understand what she’s going through so that you can know how to help. I commend you for your compassion, and I hope these resources can give you some insight.
The Story of Sam: Our story of loss, grief, and hope.
Do you know someone who’s hurting? Here’s my best advice.
“How to Help Your Grieving Friend” This helpful series from Molly Piper served as a sort of road map for me in the early days of my own grief. But it’s also great for its obvious purpose: helping friends “on the outside” know how to show love to a friend who has recently experienced loss.
“Grieving a Loss: What’s it going to take to get through this?” Nancy Guthrie answers this big question with compassion and practical wisdom. (This is a video from the Gospel Coalition Women’s Conference from June 2012.)
Holding onto Hope by Nancy Guthrie. Drawing from the wisdom of Job and Guthrie’s own personal experience, this is the most helpful book I read on the subject of Christian suffering.
One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp. I read this book on cultivating habits of Christ-centered gratitude several months before Sam was born. It gave me a vocabulary for processing my grief and my loss that I would never have thought of on my own.
In the fall of 2011, I taught a short series to our church ladies’ group based on One Thousand Gifts. Here are transcripts of my talks:
“Praying our Tears” sermon audio from Tim Keller. Practical and encouraging message about how to pray in the midst of suffering.
“When it Seems Like It’s Just One Trouble After the Next” from A Holy Experience
“Joy” by Page CXVI: Recorded after the death of the artist’s father, this is a beautiful picture of hope-filled, Christ-centered grieving.
“My Hope” by Paul Baloche: a song that has tremendously encouraged me on hard days.
…and one more song: “Though You Slay Me” by Shane and Shane feat. John Piper. So rich and true!